Court Part 2

Well, I'm starting to realized that the whole legal system is s.l.o.w.  Our first courtdate, we discussed custody and visitation.  The second one was all about child support (which I got more than I expected, so I'm pretty stoked about that).  I don't know what will be next, but could this crap be over soon please.  For one,  I can't keep paying my lawyer (but I will because he is awesome), and for two, I'm so over all this crazy BS.

In all my brilliance, I figured I would get there early and have my lawyer put me into a conference room like he suggested.  Half an hour early, an Fisher was already there!  So I went in and sat down.  I will admit, I should have sat farther away, but I thought a couple of seats between us would be a bit of a buffer.  Nope.  He started in talking to me.   I tried to shut him down, but he kept going. Then, he asked a very silly question. 

Here's the backstory: My best f riend's son's graduation party is this weekend.  It's Fisher's weekend to have the girls.  we had talked about it the night before. The party run from 12-3 and I told him to come at 2pm to pick up the girls.  He said "I was invited to the whole party".   I asked if he was really going to come and sit there for 3 hours and he said maybe.  Now, anybody who has ever been to one knows that graduation parties are like open houses- you go a for a abit and then leave.  But whatever.  He's gonna do whatever he wants. I told him that people would probably be really uncomfortable with us both there for three hours (I'm helping with the set up, clean and general party stuff)

Silly question from Fisher:  "Why do you think people would be uncomfortable?"

I got up and walked out into the hall.  I stood there, just to be away from him.  A few minutes later, he came out.  Pretty convenient that his lawyer was out there.  So, then I went back into the waiting room.  A few minutes later, he came in and sat down two seats away.  I turned my back to him when he asked "Can we talk" and said that we could not.

When my lawyer finally got a chance to "rescue" me, he put me in a conference room.  We talked for a bit and then he left to check on some things and I stayed.  After about 5 minutes, Fisher stuck his head in and asked if we could talk.  I said "no,  I'm waiting for my lawyer.  You need to go." and he said (another funny thing) "Well, I just though we could do this amicably."  yeah, right.

Fisher's lawyer is good as stalling.  They wanted to hagle over the child support amount, how I would get it, and even suggested a reconcilliation hearing.  My lawyer said "My client doesn't want that but file if you must".  Ultimately, we came out of there after about an hour and I was $75 a week richer that I expected.  NICE.

I don't know when part three will be but I will be sure to keep you posted.

Break Out the Calendar

I started this post and had all of my stuff listed out...then decided that maybe it wasn't a good idea to put it out there for the whole world.  Let's just say this:  I'm going to two concerts this month (Rick Springfield and Danny Gokey), I'm going to several cook outs and one small town festival, Lyric is auditioning for American Idol, and I'm taking a trip to Missouri for the Hoops for Life Run/Walk.

Fisher and I have started our new custody/visitation schedule.  The girls are mostly okay with it.  They don't like spending the night during the week but they did have one full weekend so far and that seemed to go okay.  This weekend will be #2.  Cross your fingers that it goes well.  I need all the good vibes in that area that I can get.

Fisher really, really, really does not want the divorce.  I really, really, really don't want to be with him anymore.  Kind of makes things difficult.  It's also hard when he calls me everyday to tell me that he loves me and I'm beautiful and he would do anything for me and he should get a second chance.  It also doesn't help when he asks the girls if I have a boyfriend or when he tells them that he's still trying to work it out.  I've told him all my issues.  I've told him that I don't love him.  I've told him that I don't want to be with him.  I've told him not to talk to the girls about the details of the divorce.  He is not listening.  At.  All.  We go back to court on July 13th to work out some of the financial stuff.  I hope that we only have to go back to court one or two more times to get this all done.