Court Part 2

Well, I'm starting to realized that the whole legal system is s.l.o.w.  Our first courtdate, we discussed custody and visitation.  The second one was all about child support (which I got more than I expected, so I'm pretty stoked about that).  I don't know what will be next, but could this crap be over soon please.  For one,  I can't keep paying my lawyer (but I will because he is awesome), and for two, I'm so over all this crazy BS.

In all my brilliance, I figured I would get there early and have my lawyer put me into a conference room like he suggested.  Half an hour early, an Fisher was already there!  So I went in and sat down.  I will admit, I should have sat farther away, but I thought a couple of seats between us would be a bit of a buffer.  Nope.  He started in talking to me.   I tried to shut him down, but he kept going. Then, he asked a very silly question. 

Here's the backstory: My best f riend's son's graduation party is this weekend.  It's Fisher's weekend to have the girls.  we had talked about it the night before. The party run from 12-3 and I told him to come at 2pm to pick up the girls.  He said "I was invited to the whole party".   I asked if he was really going to come and sit there for 3 hours and he said maybe.  Now, anybody who has ever been to one knows that graduation parties are like open houses- you go a for a abit and then leave.  But whatever.  He's gonna do whatever he wants. I told him that people would probably be really uncomfortable with us both there for three hours (I'm helping with the set up, clean and general party stuff)

Silly question from Fisher:  "Why do you think people would be uncomfortable?"

I got up and walked out into the hall.  I stood there, just to be away from him.  A few minutes later, he came out.  Pretty convenient that his lawyer was out there.  So, then I went back into the waiting room.  A few minutes later, he came in and sat down two seats away.  I turned my back to him when he asked "Can we talk" and said that we could not.

When my lawyer finally got a chance to "rescue" me, he put me in a conference room.  We talked for a bit and then he left to check on some things and I stayed.  After about 5 minutes, Fisher stuck his head in and asked if we could talk.  I said "no,  I'm waiting for my lawyer.  You need to go." and he said (another funny thing) "Well, I just though we could do this amicably."  yeah, right.

Fisher's lawyer is good as stalling.  They wanted to hagle over the child support amount, how I would get it, and even suggested a reconcilliation hearing.  My lawyer said "My client doesn't want that but file if you must".  Ultimately, we came out of there after about an hour and I was $75 a week richer that I expected.  NICE.

I don't know when part three will be but I will be sure to keep you posted.

Court Today

I've got great Rick pix to share and a funny story or two about the weekend, plus next week is Lyric's American Idol audition, but today is our second court date.

The first one, Fisher ended up behind me as I parked, and he walked into the courthouse with me and sat by me and talked to me and tried to convince me the whole time that we should not be doing this.

I met with my lawyer a couple of weeks ago and he said I could ask to be put into a conference room.  Sweet!  I've had enough of being badgered by my "was-band".

Last night he dropped the girls off at 9 and wanted to talk. again.  he always wants to talk.  Always wants to tell me how much he loves me and how much he's changed and how thing will be so different and so wonderful now that he's sober.  (which I only partially believe.  I don't think he's quit drinking 100%).  I gave him a few minutes of my time, unwillingly, but ultimate had to ask him to leave.  Kicked him out really.  I feel bad for him for not realizing that things were so bad and I was so unahppy, but I'm not going back now.  I don't even like to be in the same room with him, let alone try to "fix" our marriage.

Then this morning I get "I can't do this without you".  Too freakin' bad.  Because I can do this without you, and there is no way in hell that you are going to guilt me into coming back.  I feel so much better about myself since I moved out.  I feel freer, smart, happier.  I don't have to hid parts of who I am (like my Rick "issue"), or who my friends are, or what I think and feel.  I don't have to worry about how clean the house is, because I only answer to me.  And guess what, I like me.  I get along great with me.  I make me happy.  And that is a wonderful thing.

So, court update and Rick pix to come....stay tuned.