Let Me Step Onto My Soapbox

Okay, a teeny tiny disclaimer here for those that are new - I am perfect. I have no flaws. And I'm very opinionated. Second disclaimer- only the 3rd thing listed is actually true. Okay, so let me step up onto the soapbox and defend somebody else's kid today.

Let me back up just a teeny bit. Last night, Lyric is on the phone in her room. We have very little insulation (I think it's due to the pipes that carry our hot water heat, but I digress). I hear her crying and saying "You are worth it. You do deserve to live. Please don't hurt yourself." Okay, Protective Mommy wakes up and goes in to see what is going on. A friend of hers, we'll call K, is having a hard time.

K is Lyric's age (14-15) and had a long term boyfriend (like 3 years!). In January said boyfriend was injured in a car accident and ultimately died. He was 16. This is an of itself is bad enough. But, oh, yes, my friendly readers, it gets worse. The boyfriend was on his way to pick up K when the accident happened...so his parents blame her for him dying. Yup, that's right. Grown adults in their grief are blaming a teenage girl, who is now suicidal. Great, right?!?

So, I tried to talk with Lyric about the whole situation, and talked about both sides. How it's hard to deal with something like that. How people, when they are upset say things they don't really mean (God, I hope they don't mean it) and how sometimes it hard to recover once things are said. She feels bad, and I feel bad for her. She's the "more mature" of all her friends and everybody comes to her with their issues. And then she takes on their stress.

Seriously, people, how can you truly blame a 14 year old, who was sitting at her house waiting, for an accident? i don't get it. Maybe I'm completely off base, but it seems to me that the parents of the boyfriend need a bit o' counseling so they can deal. Unfortunately, sometimes there is no good place for the blame. I don't know the details of the accident, so there could be another care involved, etc. I hope that K and her family can get through this trying time.

And again I say "Boys are icky" and there is plenty of time for relationships later!

P.S. I asked Lyric last night, in a seperate conversation, how long she thought a "long term" relationship was. Her answer: 9-12 months. Hahahahahahaha. Her dad and I have been together for 19 years...LOL

Healing broken hearts....

Sahara's support continues, although it has been transferred to her parents, family, friends. Sahara is playing basketball in Heaven and there is no doubt that she is hitting all the 3 pointers! How do you heal a broken heart?? I don't know if you can. I think time lessens the pain, but the extrodinary loss is always fell. It's hard to see the good in things like this. It's not for the best- the best would have been for her to not have to be sick at all. She's not in a better place- because what better place is there than her mom's arms. I am a believer in God. I believe that God has a plan for each and everyone of us. He had a plan for Sahara and now he needs her in Heaven. There is no doubt in my mind that Amy and Shannon will use their grief to do something wonderful in her honor. No doubt at all.